IS SELF DEPRECATING HUMOUR KEEPING YOU IN A RUT?
It's no longer cute to be a mess
I hope you're ready for some M-F'in straight talk because today we're getting real. So here's some backstory on why I came up with this blog topic...I'm in a cookbook club where we each drawn the name of a recipe from the cookbook each week and have to make it and bring it to the next meeting. Fair enough, I love cooking and I TOTALLY love food.
On the other hand, I have not had success with baking so far in my life.... Of course, I pull a recipe that is more so on the baking side. Truth be told you don't even have to put it in the oven but it requires proper measuring and I am really creative so that limitation is difficult for me.
I was SO CLOSE so saying "You know what guys, I am probably going to end up accidentally poisoning you, I suck at baking. Let me pick something else." I decided not to go there because challenging myself is was more rewarding than backing down (I am making it tonight so I will be sure to let you know how it goes on social media!).
Ironically, that very same day, I saw a blog post a friend had posted from The Financial Diet called "Stop taking pride in not knowing how to do basic shit."
That really resonated with me because before I started my self-improvement journey about a year ago, I used to be the QUEEN of thinking I was super cute and intriguing by joking about my imperfections. When I did it, my friends thought it was okay to do it.
I created my own low-vibration reality and it did NOT feel good! I didn't think it was funny, I was just masking major insecurities. I thought if I made fun of myself first it won't hurt as bad if someone makes fun of me.
YOU NEED TO STOP DOING THIS! Your words create your reality! If you're guilty of self-shaming, here are some tips...
Take pride in the work you're doing to be your best self
It's totally fine to own your flaws. In fact, I encourage it. I'm not parading around telling people I'm god damn Martha Stewart, but rather than saying "I suck at baking" I can take the approach of saying "I am challenging myself to learn how to bake and I am excited to learn more about it!".
Who doesn't love a good comeback story!
Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you (even behind closed doors)
What's the first thing that goes through your mind when you look in the mirror? Now, would you say that to your best friend? If your answer was "no" then it was probably kind of nasty. Insecurities are normal, I get it, but you have the ability to create a new reality where you are super hot and good at everything...it starts with your thoughts.
Practice saying nice things to yourself! Look in the mirror every morning, no matter how fierce the bed-head is, and say something you love about yourself! Focus on your heart chakra because the energies of self love and giving + receiving flow through it.
You waste a sh*t ton of energy being mean to yourself and stressing out about your flaws and that's energy you could be using to fold your laundry heap or learn how to bake cookies.
It's so much easier to get your sh*t together when you think you deserve to have a bomb-ass life so be nice to yourself!
Commit to being 25% better at life TODAY
Math is something I am currently trying to get better at and am excited to learn more (see what I did there?), but I DO know that 25% is a big jump.
I don't want to you get overwhelmed so I'll give you some action steps in a little bit but first let me explain.
If you keep accepting your flaws as being super cute, they're not magically going to disappear. Again, no one is perfect and that's a good thing, but think about the things you know deep down you want to change or learn, the things that make you feel a bit embarrassed or upset.
You have to take steps every day to get there and sometimes it requires breaking it down into small bites..HERE'S WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY:
- Write down a list of things you joke about that makes you feel icky, ie: "My muffin top is the worst in these jeans," "I suck at...," "I'm such a slob," "I need to get my sh*t together."
- Now write down how they make you feel + how your WISH you felt about that subject. Use an "I am" statement, ie: "I am super fit," "I am so much better at ___ than I used to be!" "I am super tidy and it feels great." "I am so organized!"
- For each item write down 1 big step you can take today or tomorrow to kickstart that feeling, ie: sign up for a fitness class, sign up for a course, clean your place, schedule a call with a coach (CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH ME TO TALK ABOUT HOW WE COULD WORK TOGETHER!)
- Read your "I am" statements every singe morning and night until you believe them and manifest them
- Every day write down 3 new steps to take that day or the following day to improve yourself!
I encourage you to make this commitment to yourself because when I ended my negative self talk and self-deprecating humour I made space for more positive and empowering energy that allowed me to make MASSIVELY UP-LEVEL MY LIVE!
In less then I year I created 2 businesses...the second one allowed me to say goodbye to my 9-5 job in two months and double my salary in less than 4 months.
I have learned and improved in so many areas and made investments in myself like hiring a coach, because I finally realized I was worth the spend and the energy!
I want ALL of your "I am" statements to come true in the next few months and I know they can if you put your energy into them!
Sending love your way xoxoox,
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